The holidays: that time of year characterized by warm, fuzzy feelings and fueled by consumer madness.
On November 27th, 2013, while most Americans stocked up on cranberries, piecrusts, and yams, I paced the hosiery section at Target in a panic. Did I have enough socks? Would my feet be warm enough? How many socks are too many, anyway? I, too, was stocking up.
Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday. As a child, my aunt and I would walk while the turkey baked, gathering twigs with berries and collecting dried leaves, flowers, and acorns. Surrounded by the aromas of roasting and basting and butter, weâd create centerpieces for the table. Even then, I loved the idea of making something from nothing; we needed only a little creativity to dress up our table.
Last Thanksgiving, I took that concept to another level. At the prompting of a friend, I decided to try an experiment: a year without buying any clothes, new or used.
Iâm not a particularly avid shopper, but still it seemed impossible; what if I needed something? What if it was a particularly terrible winter (it was) and my four pairs of wool socks werenât enough? What if I lost or gained weight (I did) and my clothes no longer fit right? What if, what if, what ifâĤ?
This Thanksgiving marks the end of my year of clothing abstinence. I have not only succeeded at my project, but I feel utterly changed by it. Itâs no longer a yearlong plan, but rather a life plan.
Beyond the warm, fuzzy feelings of achieving a goal and saving money, I also discovered a new reason to love Pittsburgh: clothing swaps.
Where I expected to find lack, need, and want, I instead discovered abundance, support, and community. In the spirit of giving, I share this idea with you here this holiday season; amidst questions of âwhat to cook,â âwhat to buy,â and âwhat to give,â perhaps you may also ask yourself, âwhat to give up?â
What donât you need this year?
If you were offered an opportunity to âmake friends, become more fabulous, have a better wardrobe, and spend little-to-no money,â would you take it?
Kelsey Peterson believes in the power of clothing swaps. She has been attending swaps since she was a student at Indiana University of Pennsylvania (IUP) and she organized Octoberâs successful âSwap âEm If You Got âEmâ event in Bloomfield.
While all clothing swaps take a slightly different shape, most follow the same basic principal: participants bring clothes (in good condition) that they no longer want, need, or fit into, and they leave with new items that others have brought. Most swaps are free, many are informal and held among friends, and they are gaining popularity across the city and country.
Petersonâs event took two months to plan and modeled itself after the well-orchestrated swaps at IUP. She and a team of volunteers arranged the space at The Bunker Projects on Penn Avenue like a mini, pop-up store: racks organized by type of clothes and from smallest to largest, pants folded and divided by size, and shoes neatly arranged in pairs on the floor. The $5 entry fee per âshopperâ grew into a $230 donation benefiting the Womenâs Center and Shelter of Greater Pittsburgh, as did the nearly 1,500 apparel items left over at the end of the event. The fifty attendees at âSwap âEm If You Got âEmâ made out pretty well, too.
âClothing swaps have it all,â says Julia Bursten, an attendee, âa semi-productive excuse to see friends, a reason to clean out your closet, a chance to try on clothes youâd never pick up off the rack [at a store], and theyâre free. Whatâs not to love?â
Many swap participants, like Jessica Williams, also praise the eventsâ âbody-positiveâ nature. âTaking off your clothes and playing dress-up with a dozen friends doesnât happen enough [after pre-school],â she says. âItâs goofy and fun and for me, itâs very affirming to see how our bodies are put together differently, but all attractive in their own ways.â
The ability to try clothes risk-free also leaves swappers feeling more inclined to try styles they may be hesitant to buy in a store. âIf you donât [end up liking something], go donate it somewhere else,â says Peterson. âPay it forward.â
For me, however, the freedom to try new looks pales in comparison to the freedom I feel in (finally) kicking my habit of cheap clothes. I now realize the sheer abundance of clothing already in the world, and my funds and energy can go into finding quality itemsâwool socks, a winter parka, well-fitting jeansâor pieces that are one-of-a-kind, made by hand, or bought along my travels.
Pittsburghâs swap scene is strong and growing, linking more and more people together with every event. âItâs fun to see people around town wearing âmyâ clothes,â says Sarah Shotland. âThe other day I went to a coffee shop and the barista was wearing a sweater that had been hanging in my closet for years.â
I have long praised Pittsburghâs D.I.Y spirit, and clothing swaps have proven yet another reason why this city is more than just a place to liveâitâs a community.
âItâs all a huge collaborative thing, something I want to try again in the future on a larger scale,â says Peterson. Until then, keep your eye on social media for more swaps around town, or tap into the spirit and try a swap with friends or even family over the holidays. Think of it as thoughtful re-gifting.
Sitting down at the Thanksgiving table this year, I am grateful for the centerpieces of found twigs and fallen acorns. I am grateful, too, for my year of âdoing without;â it was truly a lesson in abundance. I am grateful to be warm from head to sock-covered toes. My cupâand my closetârunneth over.